Instead of dwelling on your loss, shift your focus to the good things that are still in your life. Sometimes a failure or a loss feels almost like someone has died.
And, in a way, someone has. The person you would have been—if you had gotten that promotion, if you had married that person, if your business had succeeded—will no longer come into being. Take a few days to mourn for the loss of that person.
Anchor Yourself to the Future. The curveball you were thrown probably set your goals off track. So, set new goals for yourself and get to work on achieving them. That is, anchor yourself to the future. Instead, set new career goals for yourself. One of the reasons why being thrown a curveball is so incredibly painful is because it makes you feel like you have no control over what happens to you. After all, you did everything right. Therefore, you need to turn your focus to things you can control.
You can do things such as the following:. Whenever you feel helpless or victimized because of something that has happened to you, turn your attention to the things that you can change, or the things that you can do. I hope that they help you, as well.
Live your best life by learning how to deal effectively with curveballs. Marelisa Fabrega is a lawyer and entrepreneur. I encourage you to do that with Jaxon and am sending prayers and good energy for peace and healing to you and your family. Setareh, I love your comment, especially the reminder to cherish every moment. We are trying.
Thank you for your prayers and positive energy:. I am so sorry Elise for all that you are going through with your cherished and beautiful pets. As life has thrown me many curve balls, I have come to believe that everything happens for a reason even though, at the moment, we might not comprehend the reason. I lost my son 15 years ago and was devastated—my world was shattered and I thought I would just die. Now, after much learning, I realize that although his life was short, his existence in my life taught me how to live life to the fullest, let go of control and realize that his spirit is with me always and that he has just changed form.
Sending you love and prayers. Wendy, Thank you so much for sharing your story. You are so incredibly courageous and insightful, and I admire your strength in being able to find the deeper meaning with your losses.
I agree with you that things happen for a reason, but as you know, it is oftentimes hard to realize when everything feels so raw. Sending you a big huge virtual hug. So sorry to hear this news. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you. You are fortunate to have 2 dogs that have given you so much unconditional love and that you have been able to be so wonderful to them.
Dear Elise, Curve balls are rough, and Jaxon is lucky to have you. We take our own curve balls breath by breath, and try to relax. There is joy in every day, sometimes you have to dig it out. Thinking of you all- Xoxo. We will try to relax into this, breath by breath. I agree that sometimes it is hard to see the joy in the midst of the pain.
Thanks for the reminder to dig it out. Stay strong, Leslie. I know how powerful the love for a dog can be. I am so sad for you and your family and hope you are able to enjoy every single moment together. I can say this. Jaxson deserves to keep playing as hard as his body allows and your family deserves to be on the receiving end of the love he gives away.
I know you all are already loving him as hard as you can. Curveballs are a normal and expected part of life, and the sooner we get used to that idea, the sooner we can move on. Rather than let those inevitable curveballs get you down, however, they are a great way to improve yourself --as long as you take the necessary steps to recover from the unexpected and keep moving forward. When life throws you curveballs, doing these 3 things will make you feel better about the world--and yourself.
Sometimes, curveballs are actually a blessing in disguise, even if it's hard for us to see that during times of uncertainty and change. When something out of the ordinary disturbs our comfortable, daily routines, we're forced to think about what exactly we are doing. Does it make us happy? Even if you had no intention of ever pursuing this new direction, embracing rather that resisting is always the method of least resistance.
What initially sounds like a complete disaster might end up being the best thing that ever happened to you. But without an open mind you could miss the opportunity. Sometimes if we don't laugh, we'll cry, so we might as well make it the former. Maintaining a sense of humor during difficult times helps put others at ease and you might actually start to trick yourself into feeling like things are A-OK. And that right there is half the battle. In times of stress and struggle your own personal care might be the last thing on your priority list, but it shouldn't be.
Taking time out to treat yourself to something that makes you feel great really does help the healing process.
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